That Widow White – Mary Jarvis Whitaker Brown White

There have long been conflicting stories about why General Charles Lee was even at Widow White’s Tavern. Some writers have suggested he may have been there to see Widow White herself, while others note that he had been invited. There are even accounts that Lee was uncomfortable around women and may have preferred the company of men, an idea mentioned in George Washington’s Generals by George Athan Billias in nineteen sixty four.

Researching history often means sorting through many versions of the same event. As we looked closely at what happened to General Lee on the morning of December 13, 1776, the moment that changed the course of the Revolutionary War, the same questions kept returning. Why was Lee off camp? How did the British know where he was. And how did they manage to surprise him so easily? The stories vary, but since Lee left no entry in his diary about that morning, the British account remains the most reliable record.

But then there is Widow White herself. Some historians have suggested a more personal angle. Was General Lee at the tavern because he was lonely? Was he seeking a bit of companionship before riding on to Lord Stirling’s house, which was nearby? What becomes clear in so many Continental Army stories from this region is that there was always a tavern involved. During the winter encampments in Morristown, soldiers often slipped over to the tavern in Bernardsville. If not there, they ended up at Widow White’s. And if they were heading south, they stopped at Bullion’s Tavern on the road to Somerville. The taverns were essential waypoints, gathering spots, and lifelines during the war.

From her home, which also served as a tavern, Mary presided over what became one of the most famous moments in early American history. On the morning of December 13, 1776, British dragoons stormed the tavern and captured Continental Army General Charles Lee. The dramatic episode forever attached her name to the event, and the story spread throughout the colonies.

So before we return to that dramatic December morning, we need to understand who Widow White and General Charles Lee really were.

Mary Jarvis – Mary Whitaker – Mary Brown – Mary White

Mary’s story begins with her parents, Jonathan Whitaker and Elizabeth Phoebe Jarvis, both members of early families that helped shape the small community around the Basking Ridge crossroads. Mary Whitaker was actually Mary Jervis or Jarvis, the stepdaughter of Jonathan Whitaker and the natural daughter of Elizabeth Phoebe Jervis, who had previously been married to Eliphalet Jarvis (Jervis) from Long Island.

Their household stood within the growing Presbyterian settlement, surrounded by farms, taverns, and the meeting house that formed the center of village life. The Whitakers raised several children, including Mary and her sister Elizabeth, who later married Stephen Ogden and lived directly across the road from Whites Tavern.

Mary Jarvis Whitaker Brown White, remembered in local history as Widow White, lived a remarkable and quietly influential life in eighteenth-century Basking Ridge. Born around 1719, Mary first married Samuel Brown, who owned a large farm and homestead on the road leading through the village. When Brown died in 1763, Mary inherited the use and profit of the property. She later married Ebenezer White, and after his death, she became known throughout the area simply as Widow White.

Samuel Brown was Mary’s first husband and the original owner of the Basking Ridge farm that would later gain fame during the Revolutionary War. Born in 1712, Brown built his life around the one hundred six-acre property that fronted the main road through the village. He died in 1763, leaving Mary the use and profit of the house, outbuildings, and farmland. This inheritance placed her in an unusual position of independence for a woman of the period. Brown’s estate became the foundation for everything that followed, including the small tavern activity that seems to have taken place on the property even before the Revolution intensified.

Here lies the body of
Mr Samuel Brown
We trust he rests above the skies
Tho moldering here among us lies
His leav­ing this frail world doth shew
A soul alive, sincere and true
A useful Elder in this Church
A friend sincere a neighbor kind
Who for ye Public did so much.

After Samuel Brown’s death, Mary married Ebenezer White, a respected local figure whose family name soon became associated with the property. Ebenezer lived at the homestead with Mary until his death around seventeen seventy five. After he passed, Mary is believed to have spent a brief period with family on Long Island before returning to Basking Ridge, where she resumed life in the familiar house that would later be remembered as Widow Whites Tavern.

Mary became known throughout the region simply as Widow White, a title that would become permanently linked to the tavern and the famous capture of General Charles Lee in 1776. Though Ebenezer died before the dramatic event, his surname endured as part of the location’s identity and helped define the site’s legacy in Basking Ridge’s history.

A Trist, or a Twist

One small but interesting detail often overlooked in the tale of General Lee’s capture is the age difference between the two central figures. On that December morning in 1776, Charles Lee was forty-four years old, while Mary White was about fifty-seven. A man arriving at the home of a woman thirteen years his senior was unusual for the time, yet not unheard of, and it adds a subtle human note to an otherwise dramatic Revolutionary War moment. It reminds us that history often unfolds in everyday places, among people whose lives, ages, and relationships were far more familiar than we might expect.

There have been conflicting rumors as to why General Lee was even at the Widow White’s Tavern. Some writers have suggested he was there perhaps to see Widow White herself, while other accounts note that he was actually invited. There are also accounts that perhaps General Lee was not even comfortable around women and might have been homosexual, as was stated in George Washington’s Generals and Opponents by George Athan Billias. Books that mention General Charles Lee and possible homosexuality mostly treat it as speculation, not fact.

Some older summaries and reference works repeat that there were “hints” of homosexual tendencies, usually pointing to Lee’s lack of known long term relationships with women and his obvious preference for the company of his dogs and male companions. Researching the American Revolution These writers sometimes describe him as eccentric, prickly in social situations, and more at ease in all male military circles, and from that they float the idea that he may have been homosexual.Not saying he was, but some say they speculated he was.

Lore also has it that on the moring of the assualt on December 13, 1776, some of Lee’s guards were killed outside the tavern during the capture and possibly buried across the street in Mary White’s sister’s yard. (See Bernardsville Times article in 1902), Also stated in (Voorhees’ piece as follows: “An officer in a letter dated December 21, 1776, stated that when Colonel Harcourt approached the house with his men, they received gunfire from a guard that was in the outhouse, and that two sentinels were killed. Another account says seven or eight were killed, without any loss on our side.

Final Chapter

Mary remained the owner of the property until her death in May 1794. In her will, she directed that the house and farm be sold, marking the final chapter of her long stewardship of the site. Although the original structure is long gone, a historic marker now stands near the location, reminding visitors that a quiet widow once played an unexpected role in the Revolutionary War and in the history of Basking Ridge. Her death ended more than three decades of ownership and care for the property that would forever carry her name. Yet unlike her husbands, no marked grave for her survives. Her name does not appear in the recorded burials of the Basking Ridge Presbyterian Church, even though many of her neighbors and family members are buried there under the old stones.

The most reasonable conclusion is that she was laid to rest in the same churchyard, either with a simple field marker that vanished long ago or with a stone that never endured the weather of two centuries. A faint suggestion exists that she may have returned to Long Island late in life, but no primary record supports that idea. In the end, her exact resting place remains unknown, a quiet mystery that contrasts with the dramatic Revolutionary War moment that made her home famous.

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